life on a haze

In a few minutes from now, the remains of hazing victim EJ Karl Intia will be interred at his final resting place.

I have not known Karl until his untimely demise. But yesterday, I attended the candlelight vigil ceremony held to honor the life he lived and the memory he left to those who know him.  From the testimonies shared by his mother, friends and his former mentor and teacher, Karl was trustworthy, hardworking and a responsible leader.  He loved his family dearly and was bent to finish college even as he had to take on a part-time job at a fastfood chain to augment his parent’s income.

Such traits evident in Karl, as well as his potential to succeed, might have driven the fraternity to recruit him.  Perhaps, Karl saw in them a relationship more than brothers.

But it was not to be.

A promising life for Karl has now gone to waste.

Awfully and painfully sad it is.

Why did it have to happen?

The question lingers on.  It reverberates in the mind and yet it remain unanswered.

As the great Timangkey said “We are on borrowed existence. And sooner or later we will have to return it. Let us enjoy the moment NOW, because the difference of life and death is just a tick of a second. We start our own death march the moment we are born.”

Indeed, there are lessons to be learned here.  Tragic as it is, we just might have to learn the lessons the hard way.

To Karl, may your soul rest in peace.  Amen.

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  1. BASE DIN DITO. hehehe basa mode muna…

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  2. tama ka kuya, karamihan talaga sa lessons sa buhay ay matututunan sa mahirap na paraan.

    hindin man ganun katagal ang inilagi ni kuya Karl, sapat na siguro ang magagandang naibahagi nya para maging inspirasyon sa iba🙂

    gandang araw.

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  3. Wala akong masabi kundi “Nice post”.

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  4. nabasa ko na. condolence sa family niya. And I believe that He is in the arms of God now.

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  5. Nakakapanghinayang when such a tragedy happens to someone, lalo na’t para sa mga taong nakakakilala at nagmamahal sa kanya ay isa siyang mabuting tao.

    Marami akong kaibigang dumanas ng hazing. Pati pinsan ko ganun din. Bagama’t na-survive nila, hanggang ngayon ay hindi ko pa rin maintindihan kung bakit kailangang dumanas ng sakit ng katawan sa ngalan ng kapatiran.

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  6. hnd ko alam bkit kc cla sumasali sa ganyan eh! haizzzz..

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  7. awww..kakalungkot naman at may isa na namang buhay ang nawala sa ngalan ng hazing! di ko maintindihan kung bakit marami pa din ang pumapasok!

    may EJ rest in peace w/ HIM!

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  8. toni

     /  August 27, 2010

    napakasakit para sa magulang na halos di kantiin ang anak tas papatayin ng walang laban ng ibang tao.

    yang hazing tila legal na paraan ng pananakit at walang katapusang pagganti sa mga baguhan batay sa naging karanasan ng mga nauna.

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  9. isa ito sa mga bagay na di ko talaga maintindihan… bakit kelangan pang danasin ang sakit para lang mai-consider na kasama ka sa grupo.. mas lalo na kung kapatiran ang salitang gagamitin.. though, choice nung tao bakit sya nasaktan, hindi parin tama ang ganitong klaseng paraan.

    nakakalungkot lang, na may isang mabuting tao na biktima na naman ng sitwasyong ganito.

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  10. Ok naman ang brotherhood, ok naman ang mga organisasyong ganyan, ok sana kung walang hazing o sakitan. May mga magkakapatid bang nagsasakitan at humhantong sa kamatayan.

    Be blessed kuya tarbs

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  11. paulit ulit lang na history ito ng fraternity at iba pang organisasyon na isinusulong ang mga adhika sa katwiran ng ‘kapatiran’

    na kay karl ang desisyon.sumali sya kasama ang kaalamang may ganitong ritwal.matalino si karl ayon na rin sa mga taong nakakakilala sa kanya.at nangyari ang bagay na higit sa kanyang inaasahan.

    marami pang karl ang masasayang hanggat hindi tayo natututo.

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  12. I don’t think Fraternity is supposed to give that bad of an image. Welcome to the Philippines, where we screw everything we borrow elsewhere up.

    And RIP Karl.

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  13. rest in piece karl. sya pala yung kinukuwento mo saken na malapit lang sa inyo..

    sad naman..

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  14. Sphere

     /  August 31, 2010

    😦 my 1st time here at medyo nasad sa aking ndatnan…

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  15. Si Karl ba yong nefeauture sa ” Wish Ko Lang” ?

    Nakakalungkot ito sa mga bata.

    Hindi ko maunawaan ‘yan.

    Ang pamangkin ko, napatalsik sa school dahil diyan.

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  16. Wer na you dito na me. Haha.

    Kumusta tarbs?

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  17. “Indeed, there are lessons to be learned here. Tragic as it is, we just might have to learn the lessons the hard way.”

    Hayyy naku Taribong…bata pa ako ay naririnig ko na ang ‘hazing’…daming taon na iyon…di ko talaga miintindihan yang ‘brotherhood???’ na iyan. Nakaraos naman ako ng kolehiyo na puro ‘friendship’ lang. Sana nga last na si EJ na biktima ng ‘hazing’.

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  18. update na kuya tarbs

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  19. i hate it when someone dies especially when that person died for something stupid.

    this young man is another victim of conceited beliefs of a fraternity..and the number continues
    as long as there are somebody who’s making it happen the death toll will not stop.

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